Hey you, yes you, do you ever feel like you’re putting on a facade so you can fit in with others? Have you ever taken the time to sit with yourself and ask: Why do I feel the urge to conform? Why do I have to put my passions aside so I can fit in someone else’s or society’s standards?
The long lasting question that’s always on my mind is what will it take for people to start living their lives at their own will, regardless of any judgement from anyone?
As I’m only seventeen years into this world, my way of breaking through societal pressure is by wholeheartedly understanding that it is okay to feel hopeless, or like I don’t fit in. The only reason I’ve come to the full realization of this idea is because of how short life is.
A while ago, I lost a friend who was only twenty years old. They had their whole life ahead of them, but they’re at a better place now. Never in a million years did I think I would lose that friend. I took them for granted, but living through all those emotions opened up my eyes to the beauty of being okay with where you’re at. The hardships of dealing with loss or any challenge should serve as a testament of your personal self-growth. I can’t emphasize this enough, but life is sincerely so short. You don’t know if the friend who is laughing with you today could possibly not be present tomorrow. Your emotions are truly not worth stressing about or overthinking, because they will pass. Enjoy the moments of life, cherish the people around you, and learn to find joy in whatever brings you peace.
Give yourself the permission to feel all of your emotions, unapologetically, without any guilt or self-judgement. Whatever you might be going through, let the emotion be.
Know that when you don’t feel okay, it’s for a reason. Sometimes feeling uncomfortable is your pathway of realizing what’s meant for you. It could also be your pathway of growth. In order to get stronger, you need to endure pain. When you workout and your muscles feel sore, it’s your body’s way of communicating to you that you’re strengthening physically.
Your journey of emotions is only positively serving you empowerment, growth, and realness. Everyone struggles. Those who appear to have everything together might only be putting out a facade. It’s okay to not feel okay. In fact, it’s powerful to speak up and be vulnerable about not feeling okay. “One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.”
Life is a journey and it is okay to feel like you’re behind, upset with where you’re at, and overall unhappy. I mean, you can’t feel happy 24/7. You’re not a machine! (I mean, if you are feeling amazing 24/7, please contact me because I’d love to know how you do it. Thanks!)
Awesome, strong, beautiful human, trust me, it will be okay. I’m sending all my love and peace to you, because you, yes you, truly have the power it takes to overcome whatever you might be going through <<33 – Kheira Bekkadja